by Queen Gitchee
The 2nd Sunday in May has come around again. Is it something we look forward to or is it another “hallmark card” day, a token designed to sell cards and meals at buffet restaurants? Real but not quiet real. I mean it is not even Mother’s day in some countries today it is a staggered event. Do all the bad mothers go last? Does anybody really give a toss?
I care. I have bought into the commercialism of the day. I have accepted the shopping trips that accompany Christmas, Easter, Father’s day, International Women’s Day and and Diwali. I want the flowers, the fancy dinner, coffee in bed, handmade cards from my children and some kind of handmade gift along with a not too expensive and not too cheap gift. Yep give it to me. I want to look like the Kmart ad, Target Ad, cover of Women’s Weekly on Mother’s day,me looking all coiffed, botoxed, 5 x a week gym fit, knee deep in white linen sheets,new pajamas, breakfast in bed with a flower in a vase, clean children with rimmed nails and washed hair in white t shirts and clamdiggers, plus a husband shirt undone showing his rock hard abs carrying a carefully wrapped Turkish carpet just for me! Then they all leave and I have my girlfriends over for a French Champagne lunch
I am not my husband’s mother but I have grown to expect special treatment as the mother of his children. I did push them out of my vagina for him. I wanted a handmade kilm for mother’s day. I saw one last week. It was gorgeous, happy colours, bohemian, energetic and a bit rough around the edges all of the qualities I pride myself on! I did mention when I mentioned it was MOTHERS Day this Sunday and I would LOVE that as a gift. They all rolled their eyes.
OMG I just made this about me and not my mother.. oops. sorry MUM I love you. Happy Mother’s Day.
So what is today like for me so far.I did get to sleep in. I woke to an empty bed. I got up went to the bathroom and found a FLOATER, flushed , contemplated going back to bed, looked in mirror and saw a half Afghan dog half middle aged woman staring back at me in disbelief. She looked like she should be doing ads for nicotine patches on the cover of the $2 shop magazine, all bingo arms and crinkled skin and well a bit tubby.
I did get a handmade card.It was not quiet finished but full of sentiments of LOVE. He spent a long time on the card and it is beautiful. The kids were very excited to see me and give me their gifts. I had a bit of a tear in my eye when I read “I love my mum she keeps me safe she is amazing” followed up with a very loving cuddle.
One thing stood out on the card and made me a bit suspicious;
“I love you mum because you make me remember things I have to do”
hmmmmmmmmmm I spent an exorbitant time this past week, month, ok year yelling at the children to “empty your school bag make your bed, put your clothes in the wash basket and flush the toilet. REMEMBER!… PLEASE JUST 2 Days in a row REMEMBER.”
I also got a pair of matching hair ties with little lady bugs on the end. I LOVE them and apparently there is a plastic bag with some friendship bands in it lying around but they misplaced it. It will be a special surprise for me later this week when I find it and will make me smile!
Happy Mother’s Day all you MUTHAS!