by Andy Mayer
My income is so passive it is almost in a coma.
I have never been called a Trailing Spouse but I sure feel like one when it comes to income and earning potential. I know I am not alone.
I am considered a trailing spouse who according to the newest “Encyclopaedia Brittanica”- Wikipedia;The term trailing spouse is used to describe a person who follows his or her life partner to another city because of a work assignment. The term is often associated with people involved in an expatriate assignment but is also used by academia on domestic assignments.”
I don’t fall into academia and last time I looked I was not a domestic goddess. So basically I just followed him.It’s like he blew in my ear and off I went.
Did I leave a trail of breadcrumbs? NO.
Do I get a trailing commission? NO.
Do I blaze a trail? No there are thousands of women just like me. (although I am pretty fiery and leave a path of destruction)
Have I squirrelled away some $$ incase he dumps me for a younger and prettier version of himself? NO.
Did I keep my hand in the industry to maintain skills incase he gets run over by the number 64 tram and I need to go back to work? NO.
So WTF am I doing? Well ………….. that kind of leads me back to where I am right now gazing out at the pool.
You see I met with a financial planner and life insurance agent for dinner. My eyes rolled to the back of my head and I heard BLAH BLAH blah. All I want to do is go to the pool and read my book during the day not read about my financial future.
What a bad attitude. She said “Sister what are you doing to make sure you have financial backbone should anything happen to your husband?”
I just kept touching the wooden table to ward off bad luck and wondering if I could fit the whole felafel wrap in my mouth or if I should use a knife and fork.
Is this 1958 housewife of the year awards?…………… Let me slip into something comfortable to impress my hard working husband with a scotch on the rocks greeting him with a kiss on the cheek and a little leg lift or is this 2015 where I am independent and secure now and for my future?
I have great plans and have made some serious steps towards Financial independence, it is just my steps are a bit small and sometimes I take leaps and then I fall down.
The other problem is at night when I am about to nod off to sleep the ideas, the ambition and the intelligence comes. My creative juices flow and I become the most amazing entrepreneur in the world. I can be a huge success fiscally, philanthropically and personally. But by the light of day (and there is a hell of a lot of that) I seem to return to a lobotomised trailing spouse.
Now where are my bathers, red high heeled shoes and apron?
I am off to the pool to write about “look see’s”. New posting anyone?